Anyone, regardless of their sexual orientation and gender identity, can support lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer/questioning and asexual (LGBTQIA+) people by being an ally. Deepening your understanding of LGBTQIA-related issues, including basic terms and concepts, can help you support those who identify as LGBTQIA+.
What does ‘ally’ mean?
A person who has a genuine concern for the wellbeing of LGBTQIA+ people
A person who supports and accepts LGBTQIA+ people, and advocates for equal rights and fair treatment
A person who confronts challenges that LGBTQIA+ people experience and believes that we face these problems in society:
Heterosexism – The assumption that everyone is or should be straight
Biprejudice – Harmful, preconceived ideas about bisexual people
Transprejudice – Harmful, preconceived notions about transgender people
Heterosexual privilege – The everyday privileges straight people have in society. For example, the ability to display attraction or affection (e.g., holding hands) to the opposite gender in public without fear of judgment or even violence
Ways to be an ally
Stay informed: If you don’t know the difference between sex and gender or current LGBTQIA+ news and issues, educate yourself. Ask questions, do research and don’t be afraid to be honest about what you don’t know.
Speak up: There are many reasons why people don’t speak up when they hear something offensive, like “That’s so gay.” It can be awkward; people don’t know what to say or don’t want to make the situation worse. But words can hurt. When you speak up, it educates others, lets them know their comments are unacceptable, and may give others the courage to speak up. You can also change how people act in the future. This is powerful.
Be honest: Speak openly about family members, friends and colleagues who are LGBTQIA+ if they are out and are comfortable with you discussing it with others. People often assume they will offend others or make them uncomfortable if they mention LGBTQIA+ topics. Also, remember that occasional disagreement is commonplace and healthy.
Support equality: Support policies at school, work or other places that help protect LGBTQIA+ people from discrimination. Even if the issues seem small, they can significantly impact people’s lives. If you see or hear of an unfair rule or policy, talk to a peer or trusted adult about your concerns and what you can do to make a change.
Come out as an ally: Anyone can be an ally, regardless of their sexual orientation and gender identity. Be proud to support the LGBTQIA+ community. Remember, being an ally can be joining an LGBTQIA+ group – for example, Gay Straight Alliance (GSA), Human Rights Campaign (HRC) or Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) – or as simple as showing your support online.
Allies are essential and welcome supporters of the LGBTQIA+ community. They can be influential and powerful voices for LGBTQIA+ equality. They can help LGBTQIA+ people feel comfortable coming out and help others understand the importance of equality and fairness for all people.
Source: EngageYouth.gov
